One of the traits I have to work to keep in check with this new hobby is my desire to push myself to the limit. I don't find myself being sucked in to overdriving due to trying to chase faster drivers or get separation from someone behind me, but I am constantly trying to push myself to improve each section of the track based on what I did the previous laps. The issue is sometimes driving beyond my abilities, which in this case did bite me. It is a fight to keep myself from pushing too hard on the track.
This is one of the reasons I stick to Autocross for the time being. I know this same drive. It's much easier to blow past the limits in an autocross and recover safely.
In watching the video the very first thing I thought was that you were way off line early in that corner. At that point assume that lap is scrapped and cut bait and bail on the lap time. If you'd dumped out of the throttle harder and earlier you could have tucked the front back in line before you got so wide.
Once you were out wide I totally understand the natural instinct to want to keep the car on the pavement, even though the safest avenue of escape is probably pushing wide into the grass and gradually bringing it back to the pavement. You're on treaded tires so not like you'll skate like you're on slicks. Then you either consciously or subconsciously got out of the gas which is what started the rear moving. Once that happened the inputs were too slow on the wheel. Your thinking of "pointing the wheels down the straight" were mostly correct, but you have to counteract the rotation first and that can take a quick "over reaction" input on the wheel to get that started before you can then point the car the right way.
As you build your way back to the track I'd find an autocross or two to run to push your car past the limit and understand how to handle that. This was a relatively "loose" first run at one of our events, but you can see how fast I have to move with my hands to either unwind understeer and regain movement in the proper direction. The same with oversteer as you can see me "over correct" for a split second to try and stop the progression of the rotation and then dialing it back to where I want to go.


